You know those scenes (often found in Disney movies) where the female protagonist runs into her room, highly upset, slams the door and throws herself on her bed before beginning to cry uncontrollably?
I always used to want to do that. For some reason, that expression of raw emotion in such a sensational way really appealed to me; angst-ridden music included. While not as extreme, I definitely identified with Lindsay Lohan’s character (Lola, I think?) in Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen (yikes).
As an adult (baby adult- but still) I see the drama queen tendencies I’ve developed and have a better understanding of where they come from & why they’re not the healthiest thing in the world.
While our generation has graduated from Disney movies (except for the occasional #throwback), our choice of entertainment hasn’t gotten any less dramatic. Shows like Game of Thrones, House of Cards, Downton Abbey and a plethora of reality TV dominates our various TV channels and Netflix cues. While I love Lady Mary and following the Crowley story as much as the next person, I have come to realize the danger the lies in immersing ourselves in such melodramatic pastimes.
Whether we are aware of it or not, our surroundings affect us. The people we are in community with, the music we listen to and the media we ingest all have a significant impact on our mood & habits.
To an extent, we all crave some sort of excitement and thrill in our lives. That in and of itself is not a problem, however an issue arises when the drama becomes the end goal & something we feel we need. I’ve found that the more I indulge my drama-craving, the more it pours into my daily life. I catch myself searching for reasons to get upset or anxious more often, simply because it is more ‘exciting’ than feeling at peace.
This is definitely no bueno- when we look for or create problems out of thin air for the sake of riding the emoticoaster (emotions+roller coaster). What makes it even harder is that this habit is a subtlety, hard to detect even as it becomes more and more destructive. We start fights unnecessarily, go down thought spirals that aren’t truth, and indulge in behaviors likely to bring us uneasiness instead of peace.
So how do you know if you are a drama queen? It’s important to note how we react to outside events and thoughts we have as we go about our day. Take stock of when you are upset/anxious/uneasy and ask yourself why you feel that way. From there, what is the solution to the problem? If there is none (which is rare), what can you do to let it go/think about something else for the time being? Having a more pragmatic, solution-oriented and non-judgmental approach will help to dissolve any strong feelings and make for a more productive & peaceful day.
I’m only beginning to let go of my inner drama queen, & while the habit is hard to break, I’m certainly looking forward to enjoying the beauty and excitement this life has to offer- without the drama.
Here’s to choosing peace.